Chapter 28 Finding Fulfilment
This chapter inform us about differences between a goal-focused lifeand a values-focused lifeto find fulfilment. In this chapter explained that the values-focused life is more fulfilling than the goal-focused life. Why? Becuase you get to appreciate the journey even as you’re working towards your goals. What’s more, in a values-focused life, you’re likelier to achieve your goals. Why? Because if you make sure that your goals are in line with your values, then you’ll be more motivated to pursue them. If you’re living a goal-focused life, then no matter what you have, it’s never enough. Not so with the values-focused life, because your values are always available to you, no matter what your circumstance. (Remember Viktor Frankl, who lived by his values while stuck in a Nazi concentration camp.) Your values are always with you; always available. And acting faithfully to them is usually deeply rewarding. So the more you embrace your values, the greater your sense of fulfilment.
Chapter 29 A Life of Plenty
In this chapter you'll know how much a life of plenty. How much emotions and unpleasant feelings that you will feel but precious little on enhancing the positive ones. This is deliberate.So, this chapter give us suggestiom to enjoy all of emotions and unpleasant feelings that appear and create by own ourselves. Don’t centre your life on chasing them. Pleasant feelings will come and they will go, just like every other feeling you’ve ever had in your life. So allow them to happen spontaneously, while you focus on living by your values. Enjoy them and appreciate them when they come along, but don’t cling to them! As with all emotions, just make roomfor themand let themcome and go as they please.
Life is like climbing a mountain: there are easy stretches and tough ones. But if you’re open and interested in your experience, then the obstacles you encounter will help you to learn, grow and develop, so that as time goes on, your climbing skills improve. Naturally, it’s far easier to be mindful when the going is easy, than when it gets tough. Yet the more you face your difficulties with mindfulness, the more you’ll find you grow stronger, calmer and wiser. This is easier said than done, but you can do it.
Chapter 30 Facing Fear
In this chapter you will know about what way to face fear is. If you are getting fear, you should face it as much as you can. The fear can appear in your life but you should take an action to face it. Because if you are not taking an action, the fear will make you in down position. You should confront your fear at least one of the four major obstacles to change. These obstacles are so universal, they even formtheir own acronym—FEAR:
Fusion with unhelpful thoughts.
Expectations that are unrealistic.
Avoidance of uncomfortable feelings.
Remoteness fromyour values.
Chapter 31 Willingness
In this chapter you will know about willingness. Willingness means we make room for the negative side effects, such as unpleasant thoughts and feelings, in order to create a meaningful life. (And this, in turn, gives us plenty of positive side effects.)But willingness doesn’t mean merely tolerating, gritting our teeth or being able to stand it. It means actively embracing our experience, even though we don’t like it. Willingness is essential because it’s the only effective way to deal with life’s obstacles. Willingness is tremendously important. But by itself it’s not enough for a meaningful life.
Chapter 32 Onward And Upward
This chapter give you information that you should face any obstacles that there are on your life, you should keep onward and upward. We can commit to making meaningful changes whenever we choose to. And in keeping that commitment, we create a meaningful life.
Chapter 33 A Meaningful Life
In the last but not least chapter you will know what exactly a meaningful life and the whole purpose of this book is to help you escape from the vicious cycle of the happiness trap—to live a full and meaningful life instead of basing your existence on chasing ‘good’feelings and avoiding ‘bad’ ones. Of course, in a full human life you will experience the full range of human feelings. You will experience every emotion, from joy and love to fear and anger, and willingly make room for them all.
There’s an ancient eastern saying: ‘If you don’t decide where you’re going, you’ll end up wherever you’re heading.’ To live a meaningful life, you need direction, and your values are there, deep in your heart, to provide it. So connect with those values; use them for guidance. Cultivate a sense of purpose. Keep setting meaningful goals and pursue them vigorously. At the same time, appreciate what you have in your life right now. This is important, because now is the only time you ever have. The past doesn’t exist; it’s nothing more than memories in the present. And the future doesn’t exist; it’s nothing more than thoughts and images in the present. The only time you ever have is this moment. So make the most of it. Notice what is happening. Appreciate it in its fullness. And remember, life gives most to those who make the most out of what life gives.
Okay, I think its all of my review about book entitled "The Happiness Trap". Hopefull you can get something that useful for you.
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